I’m dating this incredibly nice man. He is so sweet. But I don’t love him. I really don’t think he is the one for me but he definitely thinks that I am the one for him.   I really wanted to give this relationship a chance because in the past I think I was too quick to break things off with men for rather juvenile reasons. Now I don’t know what to do. Am I being too picky and waiting for some silly fairy tale? Am I one of those girls who doesn’t know a good thing when she sees it?

Seriously? I can’t even believe you are asking AKA this.  You already know what I am going to say. In fact, you already know the answer yourself.

It’s very nice that you gave this relationship a chance. Now stop patting yourself on the back for it and do something even more grown up: break up with him. You’re gonna’ die but you know what, so is he. And you’re wasting his time. Be a big girl and break up with him and say good-bye and let him start getting over it. I’m not so worried about you being a girl who doesn’t know a good thing. I’m more worried that you are one of those girls who purposefully dates the wrong men so they don’t have to commit.  You have it pretty good don’t cha’? A nice man, telling you he loves you, but you don’t have to worry about it going anywhere because you know he isn’t the one for you. You don’t have to worry about finding Mr. Right and having to commit because, hey, you’re busy dating Mr. Right Now and congratulating yourself for it. All the fluff and you never feel trapped. Hmmmm….The ‘girl’ who didn’t know a good thing when she saw it might have become the ‘woman’ with avoidance issues while you weren’t looking. Time to step back and assess your motives but first and foremost, end this relationship and let this kind, decent man get on with his life.