I have a job. A very good paying job. But it is awful. The President of the organization is feckless and cruel. She doesn’t do her job but the Board looks the other way. I have done everything I can to bring some attention to what is really going on in the organization but it seems to fall on deaf ears. I want to leave but things are so bad that I feel guilty about leaving. The young people who work for me are such hard workers and we have a big event coming up. I don’t want to leave them high and dry. I am not the quitting type and so I feel like I am abandoning the position but I just can’t take it anymore. Should I maybe try to find them some interim help or should I just stick it out a while longer? The Board has recently shown signs of life and I am thinking they might remove the President. What should I do? I don’t want to be a quitter but how can I leave without feeling lousy?

Ummmmm…darling…you have to stop talking now. Ssshhhhh….no more thinking. I’m going to tell you what to do now and it’s very simple:

Give your notice. It’s time to go.

They don’t appreciate you and they don’t listen to you and it doesn’t matter what you do before you leave because they are going to ignore any suggestions you make or advice you give. You are not at a place that values you and much like a bad relationship, you must leave. There are other places that will be the right fit. Really. It’s time to find that place before one more day goes by. You’re very sweet to worry about your underlings but they’ll be ok. As much as they depend on you now you aren’t their life – they’ll figure out on their own when they need to go.

Trying to fix our jobs, our families and even the world is something that women can’t resist getting drawn into. But we have to stop when the goals are unrealistic. You wouldn’t – or I hope you wouldn’t – stay with a husband or partner who didn’t appreciate you or treated you badly. Don’t stay at a job that treats you badly either. Pour all that ‘fix it’ energy into your own life and finding a new position.
That’s a much better use of your time.
Which is short you know.
‘Cause you’re gonna die.
And I mean that in the best possible way.